Are you the type of person who is content to leave a party or event while it’s still in full swing or are you the one who stays until the last glass is cleared away and they are looking at you meaningfully while they patiently wait to lock the door and turn out the lights? Do you feel positive about both personal and professional endings and focus on what you have gained rather than lost or do you find yourself burdened with feelings of loss and sadness when something ends either by your own action or decision or completely unexpectedly?
If you have experienced some significant losses in your life, such as the loss of a job or important person in your life, you are probably not a big fan of endings. In fact, you probably have an intense dislike for them. You want the party or event to never end, you want your personal or professional life to stop changing or you want the person to never leave your life. There are very few people who can move effortlessly and seamlessly from an ending to a beginning and completely skip the transition. They often do the same things over and over again and rarely try or experience anything that is new or different. Most of us find ourselves in the transition place at first feeling sad, scared and isolated and eventually feeling content, courageous and connected.
With time, distance and perspective, you can learn to view the ending as a positive rather than a negative moment in your life. You keep the good memories and discard the bad ones. You let go of any feelings of regret, remorse and rejection. You start to look forward to the new beginning and see it as a wonderful opportunity. This is when you know that it’s time to leave the transition place and arrive at the new beginning.
Every day, you have significant or insignificant endings in your personal or professional life. See endings as making space for new and exciting things to come into your life. Remember that when one door closes, another door opens.