Are you the reliable rescuer who always jumps in to rescue the person who is drowning in work, debt or confusion? Are you the terrific problem solver who is always available to fix any problem or situation by generously sharing your time, money or energy? Are you the great listener who spends copious amounts of time on the phone listening as others describe the intricate details of their lives and never uttering a word? Are you finding yourself feeling disappointed, disconnected and disheartened by how you are being treated by family, friends and colleagues? Maybe it’s time to become a reformed rescuer who stops rescuing the helpless and starts rescuing the helpful. This means making a commitment to stop and look at a person or situation and avoid being tempted to be the rescuer. It means shifting your focus to asking rather than telling, receiving rather than giving, filling rather than draining. It’s time to stop being the hero of someone else’s life and start being the hero of your own life.
Are you the prolific people-pleaser who feels a great rush when your e-mail and voicemail are overflowing with messages and your calendar is double or triple booked with meetings and events? Are you a frequent gift buyer who rarely consults the price tag or thinks about your rising credit card balance or dwindling bank account? Are you the one who others can count on to never say no? Are you wasting valuable time worrying about what other people think of you and being afraid that they won’t like who you are and what you do? Are you feeling used, upset and unappreciated by family, friends and colleagues? Maybe it’s time to become a positive and productive pleaser of one person rather than many people. This means making the commitment to spend more time with yourself, putting yourself first and taking care of yourself. It means saying no and really meaning it. It means surrounding yourself with a small and select group of people who want the best for you. It’s time to stop being the person others want you to be and start being yourself.