The Five “Backs” That Can Move a Relationship Forward

Get Back – Respond to a text, e-mail or phone call as quickly as possible. The speed of your response is a strong indicator of your level of respect and commitment to the other person. Even if you cannot fulfill the request immediately, it is important to acknowledge that you have received the communication and the timeframe that you can give a proper response. Then deliver a detailed and thoughtful response that will exceed expectations.

Give Back – Think about what you can do for the other person. Do more than is expected of you. What is within your control and beyond your control? What needs to stay, what needs to go and what needs to change? Spend quality time by yourself and in conversation with the other person then be prepared to make some difficult choices and decisions. Follow through on these choices and decisions and ask the other person to do the same.  

Move Back – Recognize that conflict is a normal and healthy part of every relationship. Take a short break in order to get a reality check, appreciate both sides, explore options and develop a workable solution. Agree to disagree and offer concessions when required. Avoid getting lost and obsessed with the details and with who’s right and who’s wrong. Focus on the big picture and try to anticipate others’ reactions and responses.

Sit Back – Let the other person take the lead. At first, you may feel uncertain and uncomfortable especially if you a natural leader or feel insecure unless you are in the control or power position. See this a positive and powerful opportunity to learn about yourself and the other person. Be patient with yourself and with the other person. Great leaders happily lead from behind so they can support the leaders that follow them.   

Look Back – Remember what it was like at the beginning of the relationship and what first brought you together. Was it ambition, passion, innovation, collaboration, recognition?      What are the relationship’s core values, strengths and weaknesses? What have been its greatest moments? What successes have been achieved and what challenges have been overcome? Take all of your responses and use them to create a strategy to move forward.


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The Motivator Minute is written by "The Motivator" who for the past 18 years has been a motivational and leadership coach for business, life and career. She offers her international clientele a creative approach to coaching, training and promoting. Her greatest strength is that she gives her clients her energy, enthusiasm, knowledge, experience, a commitment to their success and an abundance of creative ideas. She is a coach, leader, facilitator and motivational speaker who supports, encourages and motivates individuals to make positive and lasting changes in their personal and professional lives. She specializes in working with entrepreneurs who want to achieve greater success through increased business and personal visibility and credibility; with individuals who are experiencing career and life transitions and with an organization’s leaders so that they can do and be their best on the job and in their lives. Please note that all material on this blog is original and copyright protected. Copyright 2011 The Motivator All rights reserved.
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