Three Common Questions That Have Really Unique Answers

There are three common questions that find their way into every phone conversation: “How are you?”, “Where are you?” and “What are you doing?” and the three common answers are: “Fine”, “Let me check” and “I’m busy”. I believe that these questions are common in their use and informality but uncommon in their meaning and importance. They deserve to be given much thought and consideration before you deliver your unique answer. Let’s look at each question individually:

“How are you?” – Whether you are asking or being asked this common question, be prepared for a really unique answer. You may be asking it out of habit or politeness and see asking it as totally harmless and the responder may find it easy to provide a response as they are eager to share the many positive things that are happening in their busy, happy lives. However, it can also be harmful and the responder may find it hard to provide an answer as they are reluctant to share the stress and anxiety caused by the many challenges that they are experiencing in their sad, boring lives. So the next time that you ask or are asked this question, recognize that the unique answer can change the purpose, direction and/or result of the conversation in the most amazing ways.

“Where are you?” – Whether you are asking or being asked this common question, be prepared for a really unique answer. This question is a mainstay of any conversation on a smartphone as both parties are on the move and often multi-tasking. You may use it as a mobile GPS so that you can locate each other. If you are on time and waiting or late and rushing, this question may be expressed with impatience or annoyance. So the next time that you ask or are asked this question, recognize that the unique answer can often have an impact on an event, an individual or a relationship at the moment or in the future.

“What are you doing?” – Whether you are asking or being asked this common question, be prepared for a really unique answer. If you are busy and want to talk to this person, you will answer “Nothing important”. However, if you are busy and want to do anything but talk to this person, you will answer, “In the middle of something”, “Not a good time” or “Let me get back to you”. You will also use the same answers if you are doing nothing.  No one wants to be caught doing nothing in the short-term even if it increases creativity and productivity in the long-term. So the next time that you ask or are asked this question, recognize that the unique answer can inspire and motivate you or others to stop talking and start doing or stop stalling and start moving.

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The Motivator Minute is written by "The Motivator" who for the past 17 years has been a motivational and leadership coach for business, life and career. She offers her international clientele a creative approach to coaching, training and promoting. Her greatest strength is that she gives her clients her energy, enthusiasm, knowledge, experience, a commitment to their success and an abundance of creative ideas. She is a coach, leader, facilitator and motivational speaker who supports, encourages and motivates individuals to make positive and lasting changes in their personal and professional lives. She specializes in working with entrepreneurs who want to achieve greater success through increased business and personal visibility and credibility; with individuals who are experiencing career and life transitions and with an organization’s leaders so that they can do and be their best on the job and in their lives. Please note that all material on this blog is original and copyright protected. Copyright 2011 The Motivator All rights reserved.
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