When you don’t know what to do, do nothing
Take some time to think about what you want to do and what is the most appropriate action to take to deal with a particular person and situation. Put yourself in the other person’s shoes and think about how they might feel or think about your action. Avoid ruminating and procrastinating and set a time to take your action and make it happen.
When you don’t know what to say, say nothing
Someone once told me that when you talk a lot it’s because you are feeling defensive and trying to say anything even though you don’t know what to say. Silence feels uncertain and uncomfortable and while you may see it as a formidable enemy, it is actually your greatest ally. Take some time to just listen to what the other person is saying and to what they are not saying. When you feel ready to say something, choose your tone and your words carefully and find the right time in the conversation to say those words so that they will have the most impact and will elicit the right response.
When you don’t know what to think, think nothing
Allow yourself at least one hour of focused uninterrupted thinking time every day. Empty your mind of all thoughts, be still and silent and just focus on listening to your breath. When you are completely relaxed, you will be more alert and aware and your mind will start to fill up with fresh, new and creative ideas. Give yourself the time, space and energy to explore these ideas and assess their value. Always have a pen and paper handy so that you can write down your best ideas. Jot down any concerns, comments and questions.
When you don’t know what you want, want nothing
Be content with what you already have in your possession and with the people and situations that are in your life. Get rid of the toxic people and situations in your life. Take one day each week and avoid spending money. Spend one week going into stores and only spending money for necessities. Record every penny that you spend for a week. Think about what you already have in your personal and professional lives. You may want to ask yourself these questions and reflect on your answers. What do you have in abundance and what do you truly lack? What is it that you really want in addition to what you already have? Do you need money to get it or can you have it for free? How much time and energy will it take to get it? What do you want that will add value to your life and make you healthy and happy? Why are you not content with what you already have?
Nothing really means something when you give yourself the time to realize the value of nothing.