How are things going in your personal and professional lives? As Tom Cochrane sings with abundant energy: “Life is a highway”. Are your personal and professional highways traffic free and problem free? If so, then I am really happy for you that things are going so great.
However, things may not be going so great in your personal and professional lives. Have you driven off the road into a ditch? Are you stalled on the shoulder of the highway? Are you stopped at the side of the road confused about what to do next and wondering why others seem to be easily and effortlessly moving ahead with their lives while you seem to be standing still? Do you need some direction because you have lost your way? Are you going in circles and can’t seem to find your way to the right exit? Are you stopped in front of a big boulder and can’t move forward?
If you can answer an emphatic “yes” to any of these questions, you need to ask yourself what is getting in the way of you continuing your journey on the highways of your personal and professional lives. Whatever it is: be it a person or situation; problem or possibility; anger or fear; real or imagined; the longer you allow it to get in your way, the more it takes over your lives. It slowly makes you negative, steals your confidence and robs you of certainty. You grow feet of clay and allow it to grip you in a form of paralysis that keeps you trapped in a prison of your own making. Freedom seems elusive.
Rather than laying the blame on something outside of you, more often than not it is you who is getting in your own way and keeping you from continuing your journey on the highways of your personal and professional lives. The way you can break free from the prison that you have set up for yourself and move the boulder out of the way is to decide that you are getting in your own way, take responsibility, communicate with the person, handle the situation, solve the problem, embrace the possibility, deal with the anger, overcome the fear, make a commitment and move on.
As you continue to travel the highways of your personal and professional lives, there will be surprises, obstacles and challenges in your path. Some you can control and anticipate while others are uncontrollable and unforeseeable. You can prepare for the former and do your best with the latter. Always remember that it’s up to you to get out of your own way.