When You Keep Looking Backward You Avoid Moving Forward

Sharing good times and creating memorable moments with family, friends and colleagues are important ingredients in the recipe of healthy, happy and successful personal and professional lives. Recalling these good times and memorable moments through stories and photographs can be a very positive and productive pastime both personally and professionally. However, it can become not only negative and non-productive but also harmful and hurtful if you find yourself constantly looking back to the past, getting stuck in the past, spending too much time focusing on the past or wishing you could go back and relive the past. You may also be viewing the details of certain past events through rose-coloured glasses rather than through a realistic and transparent lens.

If you get stuck in the past, you reject the gift of the present – the sights, sounds, people and situations that surround you. Some may be just wonderful and some may be just awful but if you are stuck in the past, you are completely disengaged, physically in the present but mentally and emotionally in the past. You find yourself having a hard time enjoying your life and your work and figuring out where you fit in the world of the present. The past seems like a wonderful place to escape from the problems and challenges of the present.

If you keep looking behind you then you definitely miss seeing what’s right in front of you, whether it is a dream job, the love of your life or an amazing business opportunity. Looking behind you is like looking through the rear view or side mirrors of a car instead of through the front window. Keep looking through the front window so that you always see where you are now in the present and where you would like to be in the future.

When you keep looking backward, you avoid moving forward and just like a car that gets stuck in a ditch full of mud or a snow bank full of snow, you can keep spinning your wheels only to find that you are sinking deeper and deeper into a rut rather than breaking free. You sit there at the side of the road watching others travelling along the highway of their personal and professional  lives seeming to always have the good fortune to be at the right place at the right time when the right opportunity magically appears in front of them. This can also happen to you if you stop looking backward and start looking forward, As you start looking forward you will start moving forward. The past will seem smaller in your life, work and business as the present and the future become larger. Embrace the present and the future and see the past for what it is, it made you who you are and put you where you are today both personally and professionally. While you need to be grateful for the people and experiences of the past, you need to focus your time and energy on the people and experiences of the present and the future.

Advertisements

About The Motivator Minute

The Motivator Minute is written by "The Motivator" who for the past 17 years has been a motivational and leadership coach for business, life and career. She offers her international clientele a creative approach to coaching, training and promoting. Her greatest strength is that she gives her clients her energy, enthusiasm, knowledge, experience, a commitment to their success and an abundance of creative ideas. She is a coach, leader, facilitator and motivational speaker who supports, encourages and motivates individuals to make positive and lasting changes in their personal and professional lives. She specializes in working with entrepreneurs who want to achieve greater success through increased business and personal visibility and credibility; with individuals who are experiencing career and life transitions and with an organization’s leaders so that they can do and be their best on the job and in their lives. Please note that all material on this blog is original and copyright protected. Copyright 2011 The Motivator All rights reserved.
This entry was posted in Change Your Life - Views and Values and tagged , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s