Have there been moments lately when you look around and wonder how you got where you are now in your life, career or business? If things are working well, then feel grateful and abundant and keep doing what you are doing and being who you are being. However, it may be that nothing seems to be working, you are making little or no progress and you are not having any fun or feeling good about who you are or what you are doing. If things seem to be falling apart, it may be time to demolish and rebuild.
What does this look like? When you demolish a building, even though the site looks disorganized, the demolition is accomplished with planning and precision. Whether you are demolishing a project, situation or relationship in your life, career or business, it is important to plan and implement the demolition with considerable care, communication and concentration. When there is a demolition of an old building, part of the structure is salvaged so it can be used in the new structure. What do you want to salvage from your demolition? Make sure that you keep what is working and only demolish what is not working. You may find during the process of planning the demolition that this is not a project, situation or relationship that you want to demolish and that it may be saved with some hard work and commitment from you and others.
Often, when you are feeling disinterested, disappointed and discouraged, you will rush to plan and implement the demolition without thinking about what you want to rebuild in its place. It’s important to have both a rebuilding vision and plan finalized before you begin the demolition plan. Why? First you want to know where you are going before you leave where you are. Second, you want no gaps as they can be costly and counterproductive. Third, there may be things that you want to salvage from the demolished project, situation or relationship and incorporate in the rebuilding such as: lessons learned, knowledge gained, experience acquired as well valued clients, friends, contacts, supporters, and colleagues.
Once both your demolition and rebuilding plans are completed, it’s time to begin the demolition process. Keep looking forward and avoid looking backward. You may have some second thoughts about what you are demolishing. Ask yourself: am I salvaging this because it is best for me or because I am plagued by fear, guilt or regret? If it is the former, then it is worth salvaging; if it is the latter, then it must be part of the demolition. It is important to recognize that your demolition is for the best and accept that there will be short-term pain for long-term gain. Any negative feelings will slowly be replaced by positive feelings of relief, excitement and anticipation as you complete your demolition plan and begin to implement your rebuilding plan. You will have closed the door on an old chapter and opened the door on a new chapter in your life, career or business.