As you travel down the road of your life, career or business, things seems to be going along very smoothly until you hit a bump in the road, discover a detour, encounter a boulder or roadblock or find yourself in a ditch by the side of the road. You may feel angry that you find yourself in this situation, afraid of what might happen next and anxious as you are uncertain of what to do to get yourself unstuck and back on the road moving forward.
Your first response may be to get as far away as possible from this unwanted and uncomfortable situation and leave it behind in the dust quickly and completely. While you may at first feel elated and euphoric and up in the clouds at gaining your freedom from the stress and strain of the situation, this will soon be replaced by the shock and surprise of hitting the hard ground and facing the harsh reality of losing your rhythm and direction, having to pick up the pieces and starting all over again. There is a gap or hole in your life, career or business that you now need to fill with something equal or better.
Sometimes, circumstances beyond your control have caused things to get rough in your otherwise smooth existence. Other times, circumstances have been well within your control. You have watched as the tsunami of trouble approaches you yet you have chosen to either deny or ignore it.
If all signs point to the fact that you must soon make a change in your life, career or business, you can create a much more seamless transition with many fewer gaps if you determine your next destination before you depart from your current situation. You should devote some time and energy to research, plan and prepare for your arrival at your next destination rather than rushing to make snap decisions so you can just get on with it. While you may feel the need to consult with others, the destination decision rests squarely on your shoulders. If you do not know where you are going, how will you know how to get there. Also, failure to determine your next destination prior to departing your current situation could result in days, weeks or months of stagnation and frustration. In essence, you may find yourself in a much worse situation than your current situation.
Ideally, you want to move on to something far superior to your current situation. This may cause you to waste valuable time dithering or passing up on what could turn out to be a fantastic opportunity. While it is wise to be selective, being too discriminating will leave you with nothing.
At the end of the day, take your time, weigh your options and make the decision that will work best for you in the short-term and the long-term. Then you can leave your current situation with calm and confidence knowing that you are absolutely clear about exactly where you are going – to the best and brightest destination.
You may find as you shift your focus to researching, planning and preparing for your next destination that things begin to change in your current situation. The bump may be smoothed over, the detour may disappear, the boulder or roadblock may be moved aside and the ditch may get repaired. You may find that you are back on the road and moving forward with your current situation looking much improved and attractive.
It is up to you whether you decide to stay or go. The efforts that you have put into determining your next destination are not wasted. You may not decide to leave your current situation right now. However, when you do decide that it is time to move on, you will already have done much of the work to make this an easy and exciting move sometime in the future.