There are many people and situations that you encounter in your life, career and business on a daily basis. Have you ever asked yourself whether you are a saviour, saboteur or supporter when you deal with these people or situations? If you are constantly stepping in immediately as a saviour whether you are asked or not; stepping out as a saboteur whether or not that is your intention; is it time to consider stepping aside as a supporter to allow those directly involved to deal with the person or situation yet still be available if needed whoever the person or whatever the situation?
Now let’s look at each of these roles more closely and candidly.
Saviour – The dictionary definition of saviour is someone who rescues somebody or something from harm or danger. Often, the saviour steps in with limited knowledge and misguided assumptions that the person or situation is far more serious, harmful or dangerous than it really is. The saviour wants to feel important and needed and will often try to convince the person or those involved in a situation that they cannot make decisions, take actions or move forward without them. The saviour more often tells rather asks and can often do more harm than good by distracting the person/people, expanding the problem or complicating the situation. If you are operating as a saviour in your life, career or business, ask yourself why you have assumed this role – what is in it for you and for the other person/people? You may also want to ask yourself how much of your time, energy and possibly money is being consumed by being a saviour. Finally, think about whether it is time to take a step back, be less of a saviour to others and more of a saviour to yourself.
Saboteur – The dictionary definition of saboteur is somebody who takes action to hinder someone’s efforts or achievements. You may have initially started out as a saviour or supporter but now find yourself as more of a saboteur due to a shift in your priorities or because you are now overcommitted and overwhelmed by life, career or business obligations that may have been made days, weeks or months ago. Your inability to commit and deliver may be preventing progress for a person, project or situation. To the person or those involved in a situation, actions speak louder than words and your lack of action speaks volumes. While your original intention was to be a strong supporter, you are now quite the opposite. If you have been given the gift of feedback or through your own self awareness you recognize that you have become a saboteur, it is time to step out from involvement with the person or situation and, if circumstances change for you, step aside and become a supporter.
Supporter – The dictionary definition of supporter is somebody who is present and gives encouragement and wants someone or something to succeed. If you are a supporter, you respect and understand the boundaries of a person or situation. You put your own ego aside and make it about the other person. You ask rather than tell. You have a good reputation in your life, career and business. You walk your talk, meet commitments and exceed expectations. You are comfortable with being asked only when it is required. You are humble and look for ways to generously contribute and strategically add value. You rarely expect praise or recognition yet gratefully receive them. Everyone who is successful in their life, career and business has a strong circle of supporters. If you are a strong and steady supporter for someone else regardless of their role in your life, career and business, they will in turn be a calm and consistent supporter of yours.
As you begin a new week and end the first month of the new year, consider whether you are a saviour, a saboteur or a supporter in your life, career and business with yourself and with others. Are happy with your current role or do you need to make some changes?