Every day you are asked to choose from a plethora of options and make a multitude of decisions with regards to your life, career and business. You are also the fortunate recipient of an abundance of opportunities.
Are you being particularly picky or simply selective?
If you are particularly picky, you have unrealistic expectations and set impossibly high standards for yourself, your family, friends and colleagues. You are surprised, unprepared and ill-equipped to handle whatever problems or challenges arise with the people and situations in your life, career and business. You simply go through your days taking credit for good choices and decisions and blaming others for bad choices and decisions. You avoid responsibility and accountability preferring to allow others to step up and forward while you step down and backward. You seem to drift through the days and weeks of your life, career and business with no thoughts, no goals and no plan of action.
If you are particularly picky, you will stubbornly close your head to what is innovative and your heart to anything new, different and exciting preferring instead to stick to how things have always been done in the past and to what is old and familiar. You stubbornly refuse a choice, avoid the decision and ignore the opportunity. Your relentless rigidity and intense inflexibility may cause you to wait for the perfect opportunity only to find that it has passed you by never to return again. You can be critical, negative, insecure and fearful and waste inordinate amounts of time and energy trying to achieve an unrealistic standard of excellence. You often wonder why you get the short end of the stick and are passed over for promotions or you find yourself sitting miserably on the sidelines while others always seem to be in the game and having a great time.
If you are simply selective, you see spending time on focused thinking, making a list of prioritized criteria and creating a detailed plan with timelines as key ingredients in the recipe of choosing the best option, making the right decision and pursuing the optimal opportunity. You are someone who radiates positivity and possibility. Your selectivity is based on a consistent commitment to quality and excellence within a realistic set of boundaries and timelines. You are secure, motivated, self-aware and courageous. You put others’ interests first with the knowledge that your needs and interests will be taken care of by others. You get chosen for the plum assignments, the coveted positions and the most profitable opportunities. You share the results of your success and humbly express your gratitude in unique and unforgettable ways.
If you are simply selectively you are constantly adding value, radiating energy and enthusiasm and opening your mind and your heart to new ideas, people, situations and opportunities. You are happy to be a beginner and relish the chance to grow, learn and develop new skills and abilities. You are eager to share your depth of knowledge and breadth of expertise with others. You attract a culturally diverse and multigenerational group of people whose goal is success as they define it. You have a wide circle of supportive friends and acquaintances, an enviable network of loyal contacts and colleagues and a long list of cheering clients/customers. You never reject an opportunity before you explore it and then decide if it works for you. You receive the best opportunities because you have a stellar reputation of being accomplished, approachable, brilliant, balanced, committed, communicative, decisive, dependable, excellent, exuberant, fantastic, fair-minded, grateful, gracious, helpful, honourable, interested and intelligent.
Are you being particularly picky or simply selective in your life, career and business? Take a minute to think about it.