Ten Differences Between Being Assertive and Being Aggressive

Being assertive draws on strength of character. Being aggressive draws on strength of mind and body.

Being assertive is responsive. Being aggressive is reactive.

Being assertive requires careful planning and preparation. Being aggressive requires careless planning and preparation.

Being assertive breeds calm and cooperation. Being aggressive breeds confusion and confrontation.

Being assertive has an aura of quiet and quality. Being aggressive has an aura of quick and quantity.

Being assertive involves others. Being aggressive involves yourself.

Being assertive builds bridges. Being aggressive builds walls.

Being assertive attracts friends and supporters. Being aggressive attracts enemies and detractors.

Being assertive results in long-term gain. Being aggressive results in long-term pain.

Being assertive shows that you are peaceful and perceptive. Being aggressive shows that you are problematic and provocative.

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Ten Differences Between Being Comfortable and Being Complacent

Being comfortable means that you are happy to continue to try and move forward.       Being complacent means that you are happy to continue to stay right where you are.

Being comfortable means that you are always ready and prepared to accept change. Being complacent means that you are never ready and prepared to accept change

Being comfortable means that you are eager to learn from others’ stories and experiences. Being complacent means that you know everything that you will ever need to know.

Being comfortable means that you have an abundance of creativity and commitment. Being complacent means that you have a lack of creativity and commitment.

Being comfortable means that you accept the need to adjust your speed when necessary. Being complacent means that you accept the need to constantly remain in cruise control.

Being comfortable means that you try to look for ways to add value to every situation. Being complacent means that you never try to look for ways to add value.

Being comfortable means that you are giving more to all of your relationships.              Being complacent means that you are giving less to all of your relationships.

Being comfortable means that you see yourself as having a career.                                 Being complacent means that you see yourself as having a job.

Being comfortable means that you do what you are asked to do because you want to.   Being complacent means that you do what you are asked to do because you have to.

Being comfortable means that you always ask the question:”What’s in it for you?”           Being complacent means that you always ask the question: “What’s in it for me?”


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Ten Differences Between Successful and Unsuccessful Individuals

Successful individuals make things happen for themselves and others. Unsuccessful individuals let things happen to themselves and others.

Successful individuals talk less and do more. Unsuccessful individuals talk more and do less.

Successful individuals are responsive and responsible. Unsuccessful individuals are reactive and reckless.

Successful individuals see failure as a stepping stone to success. Unsuccessful individuals see failure as the final step.

Successful individuals are grateful givers who feel that they have more than enough. Unsuccessful individuals are greedy takers who feel that they never have enough.

Successful individuals look for the growth and opportunity in every challenge. Unsuccessful individuals look for the burden and challenge in every opportunity.

Successful individuals are positive and progressive. Unsuccessful individuals are negative and needy.

Successful individuals share the rewards with everyone. Unsuccessful individuals keep the rewards and share with no one.

Successful individuals are committed and have a Plan B.  Unsuccessful individuals are confused and refuse to plan ahead.

Successful individuals embrace change and new experiences, being a novice and understand that they must commit to continuous improvement as a person and a professional. Unsuccessful individuals cling to how they have always done things, see themselves as experts and are fine with who and where they are.

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Ten Differences Between Excuses and Explanations

Excuses are fast and careless.  Explanations are slow and deliberate.

Excuses are self focused. Explanations are other focused.

Excuses result in short, messy and thoughtless reactions. Explanations result in long, neat and thoughtful responses.

Excuses are weak and flimsy. Explanations are strong and solid.

Excuses are phony and deceptive. Explanations are real and receptive.

Excuses bring you and others down. Explanations raise you and others up.

Excuses are fiction and incredible. Explanations are fact and credible.

Excuses create distrust and disrespect. Explanations create trust and respect.

Excuses are what followers use. Explanations are what leaders use.

Excuses hold you back and keep you stuck in the muck. Explanations move your forward and set you free to do and be.

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Are We Really Getting Such A Great Deal?

Whether we shop in an on-line or bricks and mortar store, the goal is to get the best deal so that we can save as much money as possible. But how much money are we really saving? Deals are structured to lure us into the store and then purchase as much as possible. They come in many forms: the increasingly popular BOGO, Buy One Get One Free; the big signs touting 50-70% off; on-line and paper flyers offering multiples for one low price and the offer of a discount if we sign up  for a credit card at the time of purchase.

This often leads to impulse purchases as we find it very hard to resists the deal being offered. We feel pampered and privileged as if the deal has been customized and personalize just for us. However, the quality of the item that we are buying be it an expensive item like a piece of furniture or an appliance or an inexpensive item like socks or belts has deteriorated to the point that there is little or no deal to be had if the furniture or appliance must be replaced within five years and the socks or belts have to be replaced within a few months.

These days, high quality and built to last items are rare perhaps non-existent. We look to designer names and quality brands yet they too have lowered their standards while raising their prices. They have replaced luxurious leather belts with reversible synthetics; produced purses with cheap materials and zippers whose ends are not properly sewn; built shoes with inexpensive soles that must be discarded rather than repaired; transformed thick cashmere sweaters into thin garments and decreased the amount of wool in coats to an afterthought.

While moving clothing and accessory manufacturing offshore has given us great deals in the short term, it has cost us more money in the long term as we frequently have to replace items that we hoped would last at least a season.

My dream is to own three businesses: a shoe business that builds fashionable and functional women’s shoes in all widths with soles and heels that can be repeatedly replaced; a purse business that creates fashionable and functional leather purses with sturdy handles, straps, linings and zippers; and finally, a clothing business that produces cotton shirts and wool and cotton skirts, sweaters, pants and dresses that fit women ages 20-90 with various body types.

If you are interested in partnering with me or in investing in one of these businesses, please contact me. I believe that we will be getting a far better deal buying well made, high quality items in small quantities rather than poorly made low quality items in large quantities. We will be spending more money in the short term yet saving more money in the long term. The money that we save can be invested in people and experiences rather than in stuff.

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The Exotic East Comes to King West

Both locals and visitors to trendy King West have noticed an increase in the number of international eateries on the block between Tecumseth and Niagara on King West. This short block is home to two Italian restaurants, a French café and an Irish pub. The newest entry to this international community is Simit + Chai which has brought the exotic food and drink of Turkey to King West.

At Simit + Chai, you will find Simplicity in the atmosphere + Complexity in the flavours and ingredients of their bite size sandwiches. You can also find Solitude + Community at Simit +Chai. If you need to focus on your work or be alone with your thoughts, Dee and John, the warm and welcoming owners, will find you just the right space. However, if you want to feel part of a community, there is one to be found at Simit + Chai – both neighbourhood locals and Turkish people from all over Toronto who have found a café that offers the best tastes and smells from home. You will get caught up in the embrace of Simit + Chai as Turkish tradition is one of kindness, generosity and hospitality.

Everything is baked fresh daily at Simit + Chai. There are simits which are very thin poppy or sesame seed covered bagels filled with tomatoes, feta cheese and/or olive paste. Other bakery offerings include: Dee’s yummy brownies and dense chocolate cake; almond cookies and three types of muffins: courgette, fig and walnut and white poppy seed. The fresh daily bite size sandwiches offer exotic combinations of flavours and ingredients and appeal to the diversity and sophistication of both visitors to and inhabitants of King West: asiago + olive paste; brisket + goat cheese + fresh greens; feta + tomato + lemon thyme; mozzarella + pepper paste + mint; pastrami + fava bean past + dill; prosciutto+ hummus + red pepper paste; and smoked salmon + cream cheese + capers + chives. You can also satisfy your simit craving with a bag of simit bites – perfect for snacking + dipping. Take them home with a container of homemade hummus and/or pepper paste with walnuts.

One of the most inspiring facts about Simit + Chai is the story of Dee and John, a dynamic duo – she, a respected and accomplished electrical engineer and he, a prosperous and successful architect and construction company owner who have traded in their respective professions to start what will eventually be a chain of cafes. They are pursuing their dreams through hard work, dedication and a commitment to excellence. Dee has been balancing the intense and exhausting demands of being a new mother and business owner while John has been balancing being a new father and business owner along with the inevitable sweat and challenges of converting and renovating a space on your own including building brick walls and painting huge walls.

So the next time you crave Simplicity + Complexity, Solitude + Community, Savoury + Creativity or you want to meet some truly positive and inspiring people, walk, ride or drive to Simit + Chai on the south side of King Street just east of Niagara.


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The Chase Is On: Leading the Pack in King West

When was the last time that you walked into a coffee shop or restaurant and the manager greeted you by name having only met you once before? When was the last time that you ate delicious food and sipped a coffee, tea or alcoholic beverage in a place that offered you a variety of atmospheres that catered to every mood and moment: the calm and quiet of a library with overstuffed couches and comfy wing chairs with books to read or browse; a bright sunlit room with a view of a skating rink or playground and joyous laughter and conversation lightening the mood or an elegant dining room with tables suited for small, intimate gatherings or large, boisterous groups of family and friends celebrating a special occasion?

Located in the Thompson Hotel in trendy King West, Colette, the French-inspired jewel in the crown of the Chase Hospitality Group is all of this and so much more. With its savvy and sophisticated owner, Steve, taking the time to survey the minute details of the food, service and atmosphere of his restaurant through a guest’s eyes and Harry, his engaging and charming manager constantly on the move making sure each guest is being given first-class treatment, Colette is leading the pack in the increasingly crowded and competitive hospitality market in King West.

Colette is not the only restaurant in the Chase Hospitality Group that provides its guests with a positive and memorable experience. A globe-trotting colleague of mine who is not only highly regarded and well respected for her knowledge of and experience with markets and businesses in Canada, U.S., Europe and Asia but who is also seen as savvy, sophisticated and selective about where she dines with clients and friends has consistently raved about the food and atmosphere at the other Chase Hospitality Group restaurants in the heart of the financial district in downtown Toronto. It’s definitely worth the trip to King West to get a taste of French cuisine and hospitality at Colette. You are in for a treat!

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